The Great American Bash

Gay bashing is at an all time high. Let’s face it, as long as people hate those in the LGBT community this is a serious problem. I’m not going to dismiss the fact that in the eyes of Christian-dominant America that being gay is a “sin”. But to beat someone or bully them into suicide is just sadistic. And contrary to belief, Tyler Clementi (may his soul rest-in-peace) is just the most highlighted in a string of deeply depressing suicides across the nation by gay youths just because they were bullied into submission.

So here’s my take on it: WHY CAN’T YOU LIVE YOUR OWN LIFE? If a person can be homosexual by himself why cant you be heterosexual by yourself? I don’t see what’s the problem. Why must you deem it necessary to judge others on how they live their life; IT’S THEIR DAMN LIFE…DEAL WITH IT. We have reverends and priests and the like spewing hate stating that “they’re the scum of the Earth” or they’re evil vile brats. They in turn feed this bunch of crap to the youths of their time and let them grow up with hate in their heart for people they don’t even know. This is where “to each his own” NEEDS to be taken in effect.

This doesn’t sound familiar? Wasn’t it 50 or so years ago where we had a damn gang of racists known as the KKK going around killing blacks because of their skin color? In my opinion, America needs to find a new group to discriminate against when we finally find equality and stability. When blacks are finally equal, we as a country leave them alone and turn to the LGBT community to voice our anger.

I’ve quoted the bible before and I’ll do it again. The bible bearers will shove bible quotes down the throats of anyone with ears (don’t judge my logic lol). But it’s the same people who want to tell you that everything you do is a sin according to the bible, that’ll celebrate anything with a nice trip to Red Lobster pigging out on endless shrimp. But wait…I thought eating seafood or “those of the sea without fins and scales” was a sin, humph.

So members of the LGBT community hear my plea. Please, PLEASE, don’t give these jackasses the benefit in life by taking your own life. It’s not worth it. If you need to just express yourself through screaming or just venting your problems, do it. If you’ve already come out, you’ve already relieved yourself of so much stress. You should be morally rewarded for your bravery, and the fact that you can live life as free as you should. There is always someone to listen to, someone to talk to. Heck, my ears are always open. Don’t let the true “scum of the earth” make you believe you are anything below them.

I’m still dreaming of the day that Dr. Martin Luther King’s “dream” can be interpreted to help the evergrowing LGBT community. Discrimination, bullying, and hate is never the answer. African-Americans you know that especially. I’m just saying live your own life, and basically, to each his own.

And with that…your life just got that much more Rated-R.

First Tattoo

Whatever anyone tells you don't really believe them. In certain cases me too. In my opinion, people feel pain in entirely different ways. That being said, I'll tell you about my first tattoo experience.

Before any questions arise, I'll answer the question on most freshbloods minds. The answer is YES!!! That damn thing definitely hurt. But trust me, after you put that money down for the tat, you're gonna make sure that the tattoo comes out as perfect as possible. To me, it felt like getting a shot at the doctor's office...just imagine
that shot being dragged across your skin. Now I didn't cry or anything, maybe just groaned alot at first. I definitely got "Oderint Dum Metuant" which was Caligula's as well as my favorite saying. It translates to let them hate so long as they fear. Which is what I love to live by. People can talk all the shit they want, so long as they
know they don't want a fight with you. The process of the tattoo story actually starts back at school.

So as a joke, I mentioned to my friend from school, Maunda, that "yo we have way too much time. We should def go out and get our tattoos. She instantly jumped onto the bandwagon encouraging me to get the tattoo. So fast forward to the parlor. My nerves just double or even triple my heartbeat. I think the hardest part of the whole experience was having to hand them the money and sign the contract. And being money hungry like I am (lol don't judge me) I hate having to give away large amounts of money.

Second hardest part of the experience? The moments before. I think they purposefully try to psyche you out. The place I went to in the Village was playin some kinda satanic music and me and Maunda just looked at each other like "what...the...fuck?" And it was like a 30 minute wait period. So imagine song after song of just what hell would sound like lol.

The least strenuous part was actually getting the tattoo. Like I said, yes...that motherfucker HURT! But I guess it was because the guy twisted my arm around until he was writing on my bone. Like i said to try to give you an imagination of what it felt like, imagine a doctor's shot. But after a while it did kinda started to feel good. Crazy right? Now I see why people get addicted to it.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is...the whole process is an experience that you can't anticipate if you're getting a tattoo for the first time. Some will say oh it doesn't hurt. Some will exaggerate the pain. I won't undermine the pain but it's nothing to shed a tear over either. And also make sure what you're getting is worth any sort of pain over. Because it is permanent. It's not like any piercing where the meaning is straightforward, you're literally getting art on
your body so don't get a fad just because it's cool. And your giving away a significant amount of money for it as well. Make sure you get your money's worth.

Bitchassness in Numbers

Strength in numbers is definitely true. Its true for militaries, gangs and the like. Evidently running your mouth while in a group is a growing epidemic in the United States. Whether its in the bus, out on the street, at parties, wherever...people have this growing addiction to talk shit in a group and not by they damn selves.

Now I've noticed it for a while now. Its the proverbial, "Hold me back!!! Hold me back!!!" It's a shame. My opinion is don't talk trash if you can't do it without back up. That is a very bitch ass move. I put money a quarter of my readers just had an epiphany about themselves. Sorry, its just what I do.

Take yourself out of those circle of friends and settle shit one-on-one. And if they can't do that then that just shows who is pussy and who isn't. Plain and simple. Fact is, most people will have more respect for someone who mans up and ends shit by himself than someone who runs in with backup and has some lame ass cosigning any comment.

Is that how you want to live your life? Honestly and truthfully, most people don't have an ounce of respect for people that can't be as "gully" by themselves. Its like trashing someone behind impenetrable wall...(Check out the big word there!!!). One of my friends always says "You poppin off with all that mouth next to ya groupies but you damn sure can't do it with no one around you."

Nine times out of 10 the one by himself against the "ravenous" wolfpack will get the most respect, bar none. Its a common fact. Not only does it show independence, but it shows courage, even bravery. I know this seems like a case of "Well no shit Sherlock"... Well you'd be surprised to the amount of people that act like they don't know this...it's crazy. Look at it this way; when you talk shit do you do it to get a reaction out of the person or out of your posse? If you do it to get the reaction out of the person then why do you need a posse to talk shit. You're the main focus right? So act like it.

I'm not sayin that there can't be one tough guy in a group of people, I'm just sayin you don't need other people to hear you degrade somebody else. That's why people say "you got so much fuckin mouth, why don't you just say it without all ya bitches behind you?" Because in reality that's what you look like. A loudspeaker with little bitches backing you up. Be yourself, no one's gonna be you for you. Handle your own business. NO BITCHASSNESS!!!

And your life just got that more Rated-R

No...Really...We're Laughing At You Not With You

So I was reading a blog of an old friend of mine. It started off with..."As the famous saying goes, "Payback is a Bitch!" But have you ever stopped to think before you 'key his car' or 'have sex with her cousin', what this will really help you accomplish?"

She brings up a valid point...DO you actually stop to question what does this really accomplish?...I would guess not.

It's real simple, retaliation hurts no one except the retaliator themselves. The fact that you have so much free time on your hands to actually do something like key up the car or cheat back or blah blah blah shows that you may still care too much, or even that you may still have feeliongs for them.

Society doesn't see it that way however, they only see you as a damn psycho. Honestly when you see a chick burnin shit that's screamin off the top of her lungs and wylin the fuck out what would you really think? Psy-cho-path. Plain and simple. Either that or your just fuckin hilarious. But don't get it twisted. We're not relishing in your temporary one-uppance, we're laughing at how much of an ass you look like at the moment. Strictly entertainment. Tsk tsk.

So if he/she (I've seen guys do this too, ladies don't front) has "did you wrong" here's what you do. Ready? ABSOLUTELY POSITIVELY NOTHING. Simple right? Told you.

Think, what would stick it to them more than the fact that you've moved on and refrain from acting childish and immature to their benefit. Seriously. Move on with life, if they've cheated that obviously means that they're trying to move on or they've already done so. Now you do the same. I never said I was fair I just bring a dose of reality.

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Black Man's Destruction

The black man's destruction is real simple. When we say "oh it's cause I'm black", it's getting real tired. We never take blame on ourselves and its sad. Put it in short, the black man's destruction is the black man himself.

Last time I checked...WE IN A RECESSION. And as victims of a recession what do we do? We get any and everythng we can get our damn hands on. It's a travesty.

Kanye West said it perfectly in Diamonds: "It's in a black person's soul to rock that gold." We as blacks have been oppressed for so long so I can understand why we want the high-class fashion. But lets face it, I'm giving people too much depth to be realistic. When you buy a new pair of Jordans, or a new chain, do you think:

A) I've been oppressed for so long that it's time I start treating myself right.
--or--
B) OOOOOOOOOOOOOHH I WANT THAT!!!

You spend $200 to $300 for one pair of Jordans that'll stay in style about 6 months give or take. Did you ever think how ELSE you could've spent that money? Think LOOOONG AND HARRRRRRD

Here's a thought, OPEN UP A FUCKIN COLLEGE FUND!!! Assuming that you wish to further your education, it would make perfect sense to not only save up for college but to spend money on something worthwhile. Instead of investing in Michael Jordan and his continuing business, how about you invest in your own damn future.

I'm saying this because its common sense dammit. Another thing that's common sense is if you'd reather spend money on Jordans than on bills then something is seriously wrong with you. Come on now, be serious. But then again the black man's destruction is the black man himself.

...And with that, your life just got that much more Rated-R...

Memories Last A Lifetime

The saying "Live everyday like it's your last." is DEFINITELY a statement that is true. It is crucial to live every single day like its your last.

If you want to do something ---sensible that is---think about it and do it. Regrets are nothing more than fate's way of saying I told you so. So unless you want to feel like Fate's dumbass all the rest of your life, then I suggest you stop worrying and have fun. No one knows what's going to happen tomorrow, or the day after (though people act as if they do), so by regretting we only make matters worse.

All the planning in the world can't stop daily inevitable occurances. Take the latest episode of "The Real World: Brooklyn" for example. No one expected Ryan to get that call to go back to Iraq and his whole future flipped a 180. So his castmates decided to treat him to a trip to Atlantic City. Something he, (God forbid) may never get another chance to experience.

We can't live forever...that's a given. Why should we wait for forever to do something we always wanted to do? Some people may say that my method of living is reckless and will eventually destroy the Earth. Let me put it this way, the planet will be around a WHOLE lot longer than we will so why not enjoy our time here? Its not like I'm promoting blowing up a country or anything, all I'm saying is that if you want to have fun, then have fun.

Katt Williams, my favorite comedian, once said all you need is to get "that 'Fuck It' in your system and everything will be cool." Think about it. It makes perfect sense. Sometimes all you need to say in certain dilemmas is...fuck it. Just do you, live for your benefit because no one else will do it for you.